When you ladies write your book on how you guys became so well adjusted let me know, I'm buying the 1st one & I want it autographed! (Because I'm like an onion, every time I think I'm good I find another layer to peel)
The point is the WAS turns their back on us, then we cannot at any point turn our back on them, they have every right to feel how they do (are they handling things correctly, no but they have that right, just like we have the right to feel what we feel)
They leave us & when they come back we expect them to just be ready to be ok with everything or be fine. They have been going through pain for over some time & to expect them to come back to a place they feel is not safe, is crazy then we spend time working on ourselves, they spend time running from their pain and falling in and out of the arms of other people, (that is just sad) then when they realize that home is where they belong, we expect them to be in a different place mentally, remember we take time to heal ourselves & they run from their pain, they have never grown, if they come back after 3 years, we can't expect them to be where we are mentally, and think everything is going to be fine.
Remember they are 3 years behind in their growth, we can't force them & the only thing to do is to be penitence & loving
WAW 32 ME 38 D11, S9 & D2 Together 10/96 Married 4/2000 Bomb 4/2006 PA1 9/2006 PA2 11/2006 I now know I want out, With my Kids!!!
