I am not real good at goal-setting but that is the basics of what I'm aiming for.

You're doing just fine, snl! The real tricky part can be breaking goals down into small enough pieces, and figuring out what actions you can take to get there! Also, it REALLY helps to make sure that you have something that you can see results on within a week or two, such as......

3. I want him to be comfortable around me, not stressed.

What things can you do to help him feel more comfortable and less stressed around you? Taking what you know about how to make him uncomfortable, and how to stress him out (it seems like we are ALL experts on how to do this with our partners! ), what could you do that might have the opposite affect on him?

What will be some of the first signs that you will see when this begins to happen? How will you know when what you're doing is working? More phone calls, longer visits, more intimacy, etc.?

JJ

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