TRUSTINGS NEW BEGINNINGS

[cagzmom]

I too want my x to feel it ALL!! My reasons are mixed. SOME are because it would be nice to see him hurt (sorry) BUT MORE it is so that he can SEE himself and HEAL. He keeps avoiding hurt and pain- he is a runner.... and he is good at it.

The OW...I have to work on my part of forgiveness because there isn't much inside of me. I wish she would just go away..but she keeps showing up.. (and she lives 3 hours away!!)

I agree with what you said earlier T, about the truth about thier regret.... My sister was a WAW years ago. She has told me that the PAIN she felt when she FACED what she had done was almost too much to bear. She ran as hard as she could AWAY from her pain - until the running was harder then facing it...and even then there was more pain. I dont think she ever said sorry to her x...or she may have I dont know (or can't remember) but I KNOW she has to her children. For hurting them (her xh had custody of the kids!). i know her pain because i watched it.

They know what they have done... they just dont care. AND when it does hurt - or the pain does show up.. THEY FIND A WAY TO AVOID the pain..either with spending, drinking, sex or hiding... (at least that is how I see it)