out of respect

[alexjadams]

I'm not mad or angry, just frustrated, I just find it funny that we can even expect to get a 2nd chance, we don't deserve it & when they cheat they don't deserve it.

Then we act as if we are all well adjusted people, we are not we all have issues we are working through, if my wife is battling depression & I leave her is there a difference if I leave her if she is battling cancer, no she is ill and is in need of love and support!

We can't (both LBS & WAS) go around turning on & off the love we have for one another and not expect anything to happen!

Love is a flower that needs attention not In the past not in the future but now the present & that's why it's a gift!

If we don't appreciate it, why should we even get upset when it's gone (the WAS loves us we didn't take care of it, so {yes it's wrong} they took it)

Look at it this way you work for a company for 10 years killing yourself for them, 80 hour weeks, sometimes weekends, the boss constantly tells you "if it wasn't for you I don't know where this company would be?" But no raises, bonuses for you but it's freely pass around to co-workers, we would all get fed up and find a new job!

That's what is going on, & then we act all surprised when they walk away, I know this if the situation was reversed we would have done the same thing!

Then we want to hold the WAS accountable for their actions, remember none of us are well adjusted people, we don't project our thoughts, we are not insecure, non-judgmental, we don't take each other for granted, & we love unconditionally

If we did all of those things & picked a spouse who was capable of those things we wouldn't be here would we?

What I'm saying is if you had suffered depression, addiction, or some kind of abuse what would you want? Love!! but I read nothing but people complaining & whining about how bad their life is because of their spouse & no point did I read "hey my life is bad but at lease I'm not going through what my spouse is and even though they are broken I still love them and be here in a non-judgmental way" nope what I read is oh whoa is me, no wonder they leave us

I pray to god that if I go through some kind of trial in my life that I'm surrounded by people who truly love me, and understand what that means & not people who run when life gets difficult

Maybe it was the wrong approach, but maybe that's what we all need a wake up call to say hey we don't deserve a 2nd chance, I could see if we did everything right & the WAS still left and even if that happens they still need love and support we seem to think we are the only one in pain & that our WAS has left because of us. We turn away and cringe when we are approached by a homeless person, but you don't know their story, how would you react if you felt you were responsible for the death of your family, you don't know the pain they are going through like our WAS we don't truly know what they are going through, the last thing they need is for us to take our love away & judgement