Hi Lucas, welcome to the party thread. I'm a beer man also and not fussy !!
In a nutshell, you have DB'd but as you say, you feel you haven't hidden your down times from your W well. Therefore, for all your GALing and acting 'as if' I wonder if that is all irrelivent if she spots those down times ? kinda makes it a bit pointless ?
It sounds like you do ok financially, so whilst preparing for the mediation and the divorce, maybe it's time to find yourself a place and move out now ? This would also be a complete 180 to what you have been doing and as your W does not miss you ever as your there, this might work ??? (be interested in others thoughts on this). I'd prepare a bit of what you want to say, post here if you like, to make sure it comes out right if you decide to do this.
I haven't read your other thread, but just from what you say here, it seems your W is having her cake and eating it. I'm not truely convinced she is ready to WA, she is just going through a life crisis (no such thing as MLC, can happen any time IMO) and not sure what she wants in life. Thinking the grass is greener but all the time things are the same with you there, she wont get the opportunity to see the other side. Appreciate how much you do.
At the very least, IMO, you could do well to sit down, say the last 14 months have been really tough and you need a break to do some thinking. Take yourself off for a bit of time, go with a friend and have a good time.
Best of luck to you sir (and again, I really am not convinced she's done. I've not known many people that want to divorce that can bear there spouse being in the same house, let alone the same bed)
