Why, well first I did tell her in mid Nov exactly how I still felt about her
Yet the BF is still there.
So how is it that someone that seems to care turns their back on the person that loves them the most but still shows bits of care? I just don't get it, I really don't. All I can do for now is pray for her, for our girls and pick myself up and keep moving forward with me. But it sure is hard as #$%^ sometimes.
Cat,
I feel ya bro... I think there are a large number of us here that do.
It is hard to comprehend the fact that there are inate and distinct differences between ourselves and our X's & STBX's. Obviously they have different thought processes, morals, inner workings, whatever it is that makes them different. Otherwise they would be hanging out on some web site like this one looking for advice and help... Heck, they might not have done what they did to get us here.
When we apply our take on things to the ways that they are reacting towards us and treating us, it can lead to misconceptions. We try to put ourselves in their shoes in order to psyco-analyze their intentions. That is a mistake that almost always leads to shattered expectations on our end.
It is hard to move forward, but that is what you have to do. Simple as that... If you need help and support in doing that, come talk to us here.
It'll be good man, just get the lay of the land firmly planted in your head and don't allow yourself to forget it. Things DO get better and feelings for the X DO subside. I suppose there might always be something "there" but I suspect it will be the yearning for the romantic vision of "what was" instead of what is "really there". It just takes time.
