Quoting sgctxok: Let me put it this way....what are you really saying and doing now?
what am I saying? letting h know that I would like for him to say ily...did he hear me? unless he's deaf, he heard me loud and clear...has he said it? NOPE.
I have asked that we set asside at least one night a week that is for "us" either we get a sitter and go out or have the kids in bed by 8 and have a "date" at home...say in the basement playing darts or cards or something other than sitting on the couch watching foxnews...has he heard me? have I used such clear words as I have here? have I not discussed it in c? YUP! what was h's response? I can't commit to that because I don't know what my day or week is going to be like and therefore don't want to say I'll do something and then get crap for not doing it. does that work? NO becuase it leaves us doing nothing but wathcing tv and it also doesn't let me know what to expect? when will we be spending time together. I'd like to know that say wed night we play cards and sat night we either go out or rent a movie or hang in the basement playing darts. that way the rest of the week I can do my own thing and not wonder gee is this the night that h will want to spend time with me? I have clearly stated to h that physical touch is also one of my love lanugages...he has clearly understood this...understands the concept of filling eachothers love tanks..it all makes sense to him (his words) and yet I can't recall the last time I was hugged just for the sake of being hugged at his intiation.
