I like to think I will be okay no matter what. Mish, I found something I read in my devotional yesterday that matched what you have been thinking as far as living your life in a way that is pleasing to God instead of just making your own decisions based on your feelings of the moment. I will post it to you once I look it up...
Anyway I am doing well. Flirting with a friend just reminded me that I AM still a girl and still alive...
And running at the gym and having friends over for the kids are things I can do no matter what happens in my life. I am taking back ownership of my life instead of waiting to react to whatever Dan does. And that feels good.
I think that once I get over the (amazingly large) hurdle of actually telling the kids our situation, I will be able to get even stronger. The truth is we have been living separate lives for so long it is really just putting a name to it (separation), nothing is really going to be all that different except for the kids going to Dan's house one he is ready for them.