Wish I could tell you how! I saw it somewhere once, but not again since then...technical issues, maybe.
I know you worry about not pushing your wife cause you have so little time. It would be a 180 for her to see you "give up", to drop the rope. To just let her go. I know it goes against our nature. But I don't wonder if right now, it is just too much chasing for her. Take the kids out or go out yourself. Come home later than her. Don't volunteer any info. GAL!!! She doesn't realize that you WILL be 100% perfectly fine without her.
One other thing about her dad. Ugh. I hate this about my parents. They feel like they see everything I have put up with for the last 13 years. I know they have seen/listened to a lot. Part of me feels like they don't know because they weren't there. Part of me feels like they can't be objective. Part of me feels like I can't be objective. They don't hate H. But they hate what he has reduced me to. They hate that I was willing to accept hanging out with his buds drinking. They hate that I was willing to put up with him driving home drunk. They hate that he didn't take better care of our marriage so that I felt forced to seek what I was missing from outside the marriage. They know how long I waited for him to stop drinking. They know how miserable I have been not being treated as an equal partner in this M. But still. They actually want me to get this D. I hate that. What does that say about them??? And if her dad is telling her the same thing, it is hard for her, too. Ultimately, I know that my parents have a biased opinion and so that negates what they want, in my mind. I will consider their opinion. But I WILL NOT do as they wish simply because they wish it. I am far more intelligent than that. But maybe your W is in somewhat the same stitch, and since her dad is telling her get out, she is listening. What our parents want for is very powerful. But it shouldn't get to ride roughshod over what we, as individuals know is right.
Issues, did you say???
We got 'em!!!
I'm serious. I'd lay down the rope as Wifey likes to say. You want her to choose you, not be forced into you.
Mel
"Standing knee deep in a river and dying of thirst."
