ok, just got thru reading the second step. i see that goals are something i really must work on. i am gonna take this one step (goal) at a time because i am so new at this, i want some advice as to if i am on the right track.
Quote: Goal Setting Rule #1 -
"Think about what you want, not what's missing"
Instead of concentrating on what you don't like about your marriage, take some time to concentrate on how you would like your marriage to be.
What parts of your relationship do you want more of?
i want intimacy - not more because it's non existent right now - i would like to be able to initiate sex in the future but right now i am happy with if we just have it.
what does intimacy include? well right now, in the last week or so, i have been getting "cuddles" in bed. this is something that has not happened for a very very long time (like maybe since the first year of marriage) - that to me is a huge step. right now i feel like "sex" is the beginning of our healing process. i know that isn't true, but i feel that way and so i need to work on it. my goal would be to have sex before the 6th month anniversary of d-day. that date would be november 22, 2003.
