Thanks for your post, but this is not about me & my situation,
We as LBS need to put on our big boy pants and accept the fact that we screwed up, & then when the LBS leaves we want them to change, what happen when they wanted us to change & we didn't, now we want them to change & when they don’t we get mad
We need love, they need love, and we can't just take our ball & go home
when one gets divorced & meets a new love interest & start talking about the "D" and we say things like "yeah I left my husband because he was an alcoholic", "I left my wife because she cheated and when she was ready to come back I moved on"
To me all this says conditional love, and who would want to marry that, so I have tried my hardest to show my wife real love, because I believe that's what is needed in these times
If she comes back, she does if she moves on she does, I can't control what she does, but I can't blame her ether way, I had my shot & screwed it up! If I get a second chance with love (w/ her or someone new I promise I will make the most of it)
I mean how many times have we held childish grudges because they said or did something to us we didn't like, I think back on all the childish crap we done to each other & it's sad, pride is really one of the deadliest sins, right now she feels like I don't love her and after everything that has happen if I was her I don't know if I could face me and accept my part in causing so much pain. But I'm not exactly declaring my forgiveness either! I should go to her & tell her that after all of this I still love her but, I keep coming back to she replaced me, if she really wants me she'll let me know right?
It's all crap, pain & pride is what kills relationships pain & pride!
WAW 32 ME 38 D11, S9 & D2 Together 10/96 Married 4/2000 Bomb 4/2006 PA1 9/2006 PA2 11/2006 I now know I want out, With my Kids!!!
