Step Number 2 - Know What You Want

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If you aim at nothing, you'll hit it everytime."

With this step, we begin to look at how to turn your "visions" of your relationship into reality by taking action!

As Michele says, Don't skip this step!" This is your road map for the rest of the program, and will help to keep you focused on where you're going, and help give you signs that you really are heading in the right direction!

First off, list 2 or 3 things you are hoping to change or improve about your marriage. The questions below might help you figure this out!

Goal Setting Rule #1 -

"Think about what you want, not what's missing"

Instead of concentrating on what you don't like about your marriage, take some time to concentrate on how you would like your marriage to be.

What parts of your relationship do you want more of?

What are the times in your marriage that you'd like to "re-create"?

What are some new things that you'd like to see happen?

"When my spouse stops doing ___________, what will s/he be doing?"