Jayce's thread

[Jayce]

Yeah, I get that. The books I've read seem to agree that guys focus on one thing at a time. They can't do 2 things at once very well. (Explaining why my H turns down the car radio at the drive-up ATM which strikes me funny & I laugh & he gets miffed)So we do have to space our questions out far enough not to confuse them LOL

Humor aside, I know we can't bombard them with it all at once. Once we break out of the circle with new questions, we risk the ultimate impasse: One says, "If you loved me, you'd have sex w/me more often." and the other says "If you loved me you wouldn't make me have sex more often." If the second partner is quick enough to shoot that second statement right back rather than thinking of it later, instead of a circle, now there's a head to head standoff. The only good outcome would be if they have enough sense of humor to burst out laughing at that point.

Do any of us still have a sense of humor? Can we do the 'laugh so you don't cry' thing? Cartoon in last week's paper: little girl goes to school janitor complaining that kid in library is playing computer games & the sound effects are disturbing her. He gets her a pair of sound deadening earmuffs & says "This ought to solve the problem". She says "I didn't want to solve anything, I just wanted to tattle."

Our partners probably resist counseling cuz they figure we want to tattle rather than solve. As good an excuse as any, I guess.
J