When do the tears go away ?

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Tom,
So well said, yet again.
I had decided to do just that. Be who I know I am.

Even today that was tested. The school called today to say they are having trouble with our 6 year old D. They phoned me first and then my W. They said that they have trouble with our daughter on the days she is going to go home with the mom. Interesting....welcome to the effects of divorce.

W phoned (as I knew she would) and I just listened. I asked W what she would like me to do. Of course W said our daughter is great with her (I know she is not) and that it must be issues that other kids are bringing on. Ya....denial. Maybe our D is looking for attention because she is struggling as we are divorced.
Anyway, I found that interaction to be fine but it actually left me losing a bit of feelings for my W. I think it was because of her denial that our divorce is causing hurt with our children made me lose a bit of respect for her as a mom.

As a loving parents should we all not fight to the death to make sure we provide a great loving home with 2 parents. I guess not according to our WAWs.