in a galaxy far, far away...

[Silent Chrleader]

[[[[[[[[[[BM]]]]]]]]]]

You seem to be forgetting something! Remember that D is just a piece of paper. Anything can happen. Stop "future fu**ing"!! You don't know what the future holds! I've read that the statistics are that 80% of married couples seperate for a period of 6 months or more at some time in their relationship. And 17% of people who actually get divorced, later re-marry the same spouse!

Please get the book "Getting Back Together" by Bettie Youngs and Masa Goetz. It really helped me to see how a seperation can be a step forward toward re-building your relationship! Especially if your H is no longer with OW.

If you truly love your friend (and I know without a doubt that you do!) then let him have this journey with your blessing (even though it's so very painful). Let him go, with love, for now!! I know this is the hardest thing you will ever do, but I also know without a doubt that you are stong enough to do it! And I believe that in the long run, you will see that it was the best thing you ever did!!

We have so very much in common, BM! My marriage was practically my very identity! Even though I always felt I was a strong person, I didn't really know how strong I was or really trust myself until this all happened! And, I know without doubt that my next relationship (hopefully with my H, who I know will always be the love of my life) will be stronger, healthier, and deeper than my M. I know this because I am a stronger, healthier, more self-confident woman than I was!!

Take Care, my Friend!!!