I wanted to post that I did ok last night. Was tempted, but didn't cave in.
I posted in my thread too but in a nutshell, exh canceled his visit with baby yesterday and said to give her a kiss and an hug. I replied with ok. Then at 10 last night he sent another text about telling baby daddy loves her. I didn't respond. Baby and I were sleeping anyway. He sent it 3 times and then got mad.
I know he is just baiting me to see if I am around or alone.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
I'm struggling today and sorely tempted to break my NC. I know it's totally the wrong time to do it at the moment though as I am in the wrong frame of mind. My PMA has deserted me today
Lonely, I'm swimming mate, slowly but surely!
JD, I'm watching your sitch with baited breath. Hoping that it all goes as OK as it can.
Silva, Do not BREAK YOUR NC!!!!! You cannot let down times dictate your goals and your plan. go outside and take a walk, do something to clear your mind. Do not call or text or email or anything. come here and chat, but do not. Think about what you will be doing this weekend, think of something else!!! tell yourself to STOP!!!
I make myself leave my phone, and walk around somewhere, or if at home, do dishes, or check laundry or ANYTHING.
It's sort of like dieting - you look at that delicious cream-filled donut, and man it would taste good! But imagine how you'll feel once it's in you, and you know your butt is going to blossom, and then what purpose will that crappy donut serve?
Do anything, but DO NOT BREAK YOUR NC!!!! What works best ofr me is thinking about how much I miss her, get angry, and the last thing I wanna do is talk to her...It works for me...I kept breaking my silence and here I am 5 months later, finally getting past those urges. the earlier on you learn to hold true to yourself the better. trust me..
Day 1 of BF being home. Only conversation was about setting up a new bank account to transfer a chunk of money to my control. Other than that, I asked how his trip was, "Fine." How are the boys, "Good." So I left the room and worked on my job search activities. Eventually BF went to bed without a word.
Today he got up and left early. I woke up when I heard him moving about but didn't get out of bed to see him off. Thought about asking him about C session on Wed but posted on my thread instead so left it alone.
If you love somebody, set them free. http://tinyurl.com/2empx2g
good deal. I use this site for the same reason. I have been hit with so many 2x4's II could build a house. Bend but don't break. I just got an email about a financial angel and prayer to free you from debt. I have send these to W. I sent this one. I know she is busted financially. and , well, I felt I needed to do it. She is with OM, let him deal with her crap, but I don't know, I had to do it. Let's see if I get a response. Oh, I sent it to a bunch of people and included her, didn't just send it to her.
