LIN,
I suppose everyone has to decide on their own when it's time to move on. My standard has been to consider D, if for one year there has been distance in the R, and there has been no progress towards connection, friendship, or intimacy.

As difficult as my situation has been, the R has never reached this point, and each year shows progress from the prior year.

CL

CL 53 W 54
M 20 yrs.
03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL
10-14' Piecing

"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."

----Tao Te Ching