S&A - Thanks for the comments. I have looked at NMMNG before and very little applies to me (maybe something like 10% of it). I will look again though. This is not only about sex either... it's lack of affection and intimacy on any level. It's another one of those things that her family life growing up taught her. They just don't show their love through touching. It's all about commitment and acts of service to her.
I'm still here, I'll always be here for you... Oh and I made lunch for you too. For me that's all well and good... still feels like there is a disconnect without the touching.
When you are centered and have all of this positive energy to give, what are you supposed to do when your gift annoys your partner?
Still no answer about the "Letter". As I've said I think I already heard her answer. As things settle down after her going back to work I may get to talk with her again. Until then I'll just have to wait.