Something you said struck a chord with me. I have tried to build on momentum with my H too, and it never works. Only when he sets the pace do things go well. I know how difficult it can be to resist that urge, so good for you.
My H and I are separated and I believe he is in some mix of MLC/depression. Things have been better and we have reached the friendship stage and it is killing me to let him set the pace. I just keep thinking, look how much progress we've made in the last 6 weeks, why can't you go the rest of the way? But, he can't yet. So, like you, I am learning to take my cues from him.
Thanks for your post. It helped me feel better this morning by reminding me to let him set the pace.
