Stage 5, Acceptance

[AlexEN]

FIB,

This is exactly what I am faced with and it is so bassackwards.

It is my WIFE...who went outside the marriage. It was MY WIFE...who made the decision to NOT RECONCILE...or even TRY TO RECONCILE. Although I have, on multiple occasions in the past, apologized...told her I would prioritize our marriage....admitted that changes should be made...did most of them..it was my wife who shirked her responsibility and to this day accepts NO ACCOUNTABILITY for where we are.

Yet, she wants us to go on as "friends" for the kids' sake and accuses me of being vindictive and judgmental because I feel that that is unrealistic and too painful for me to contemplate now, as she has made no effort to even TRY TO RECONCILE or to rebuild any sort of trust. She wants to be family, but not "husband and wife". Would she want a friend who has treated her as she has treated me?

-AlexEN