Didi, It is so nice to see that you and your H are working so hard to mend your marriage. You are right, your H is a keeper!
I agree with everyone else about the OM, just don't answer his calls. If he continues to call I agree that you should tell H that you are ignoring his calls, but he continues to call. You and your H can work together for a solution. I think H would appreciate your honesty and will see how much you want your marriage to work. But for right now, I think I would just handle it the way you did.
Hugs, Yoyo
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon