M, I want to share something w/you and maybe there is a theme to some of these guys and the way they think.
Back in 1999-2000, I advised my xh that if he came to the house and took things that had not been agreed upon as to who got what, I would have my PI track him down and then notify the police about it for documentation purposes. I also mentioned to him that if he continued to come to my home and break up things in the yard or take packages from my front porch or the mailbox, I would report him to the proper authorities. From that time on, he would not come to my home without referring to those statements. When he did show up for the plastic Easter Egg, he brought along an escort of two deputies.
I think that once we set our boundaries and then something happens and we refer to the proper authorities or they are called in, it become embedded in their brains and they can't forget it. It's like we are never suppose to do such things to them and yet, it's okay to do what they've done to us.
It's just so strange how they are hard wired during the crisis.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
