PS how much longer is the situation with you and your w under the same roof, going to last?
The appraisal of my practice is the hold. It takes awhile. It should be completed by the end of February and then THIS will allow them to move onto the final issue...custody and visitation. I am predicting that the marriage between my wife and I will be dissolved by early/late spring.
Although staying under the same roof together has been miserable, I am now able to see what the one advantage of it is: it forces a settlement and helps to keep things dragging on ad infinitum. It is to XXX's advantage, if she truly despises, to get this done as soon as possible.
Originally Posted By: 25
Plus of course, People change. All of this makes me ask, as your wife is now, well, would you want to marry the woman she is today?
The answer is a resounding NO. When I look at my W now...and look at what minimal pictures of us are up on the wall, I don't see the same person. My W is about tight jeans, personal trainer, shopping, dieting, younger men. She is angry in an unhealthy way. She is self-centered.
No. There is nothing there now and when I do wince, it is remembering the woman I walked down the aisle with.
Most know here that....despite being photographed cuddling with my kids...attempts at false arrest...lying to me...stealing my media card, etc...that I have ALWAYS tried to treat her with respect, keep communication open, and even as only a few months ago, tell her that her hair looked beautiful.
Originally Posted By: 25
Do you have any New Year's resolutions or goals or steps planned out for your program of GAL and PMA?
I didn't formally make any but I have some goals. As you know, I've dropped the classice 'divorce weight' and kept most of it off and I'm in good shape. I need to continue a more consistent exercise schedule. My GAL continues....coaching girl's lacrosse...coaching baseball...better attitude at work...and working on me. I ordered a new set of reeds for my Fireside bagpipes and intend to return music into my life as I had put my pipes down (er...literally and figuratively, LOLOL) during this whole thing.
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Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
