When do the tears go away ?

[whitneypinch]

Hello everyone,
So here is my latest update.
W seems to have decided to change things up a bit. Generally we text each other 99.9 % of the time. She has now started to pick up the phone and talk to me when there seems to be an issue for us to discuss. Of course it’s always about the kids.
Yesterday I asked her to help fill out some forms about the kids. She was kind of blowing it off so I got a bit huffy. She wrote me an email about all the years of her filling out forms for our kids etc. I knew immediately that I had hit a nerve. I picked up the phone and apologized to her which she was surprised and appreciated hearing. Then I wrote out a list of things I have appreciated over the years that she has done. She replied saying thanks, that it meant a lot to her to hear that.
This further made me realize that there have been so many assumptions made due to lack of proper communications and that she is carrying around a lot of hurt. I have also realized that she still blames me for all of this and has not accepted any responsibility at all.
I just don’t know how to proceed with her at this point. I almost feel like we need to get together and clear some air about lack of communications. I know that goes against DB to have relationship talk but I don’t know.
Thoughts anyone. I would LOVE to hear from a WAW.