do you have a lawyer? Getting a lawyer, does NOT hurt your chances of a recon b/c maybe it'll POSSIBLY wake the h up about what the costs are and maybe he'll see you with respect if it's a 180'. Regardless, at a legal conference you need a lawyer and you need ot have some boundaries.
Please sign NOTHING without an attorney seeing it and please hire one if you have not done so before. I've never heard of a woman going it alone to "get along with h" and "not make him mad" (b/c what would he do if he got mad, leave you? Oh wait, he already is...) AND getting her h to stay with her. I'm not talking about taking him to the cleaners, though that does motivate some men to try again. But don't roll over as it does not make you more attractive to him and if you have children, you owe it to THEM to get treated fairly, so you won't regret a big mistake, later in life.
Sending positive thoughts your way... j-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
