Haven't been on for a couple of days. Didn't see much of my W this weekend. She didn't come home at night for the whole weekend. Don't know where she went but I can guess. I have not even attempting to contact her. I am going to develope some boundries and not be available. The couple of times we did talk she was wondering where I was because I made sure I was gone early before she got home.
I tried to be vauge but I think the next time she asks me where I was I will just say kindly, that you wouldn't like it if I asked you that question I would like the same consideration. Why should she get an answer from me when she comes and goes whenever she pleases. I am hoping this will keep her guessing. I think also it's about getting my control back.
Like everyone has pointed out this has been my problem and when she asks, I don't want to lie.... so by setting the boundry not to ask me I don't have to lie or make up witty responses I just have to keep busy.
I have to show her that I get it (that she wants to be separate) and be confident showing her that I am not just going to sit around waiting for her while she behaves badly. I have a life and right now it doesn't include her.
ME 44 W 32 M 5 T 6
no kids
June 08 I don't want to be married it's not you it's me
