Hi, whateverittakes, thanks for the hello. Interesting point about not talking about the R - what is that about? I just started to read the DB book. My H always wants to talk about the R saying that nothing gets resolved if we don't talk about it. Since our for the last month I have been putting him off about the R issues. It didn't stop him from pushing and complaining that I never have time to talk things out - we can't solve things this way. When I point out that it is premature or that nothing gets resolved when we do talk or that we just argue and don't talk for a week -he insists that we just need to learn. Today he called after walking out angry yesterday. I took my time returning the call. He wanted to talk about the R and I did just listen at first and when he said something really different that I have been waiting to hear from him I decided to reinforce his willingness to admit that he has been digging in rather than compromising. What do you think?
