Thrown for a Loop

[Indigo]

It's been almost a month since I've had any contact with my spouse (and that contact was initiated by me). And I've been working on myself, and I'm trying not to be discouraged, but need some advice. WAH's birthday is next week, and while I wouldn't think of getting him a present that might be interpreted as pressure to get him to come home, I don't know if I should send him a very generic happy birthday card. I have one that says something like "may the Lord Bless you on your birthday," but I'm having second thoughts on whether to send it or not. I've been 'dark' since the last month, and since he's initiated no contact with me, I just don't know if I should acknowledge his birthay. A part of me wonders if he might think if I don't do anything, that there's some hostility on my part. Any thoughts?.....