"Anyway I keep thinking in the back of my mind that he obviously wants a divorce. Otherwise why would he buy a house and move out? I mean maybe he finally does see he needs help, hence the counseling again. And he said he wants to tell the kids we are taking a time out and we don't know if we will be back together again."
.. you dont know, its too soon to tell, plus, you have to take what he says on face value.. he doesnt want to file yet. I really see him as wanting some PROPER space.. hence, buying the house, but I see him as in now way decided and trying to let you down gently. I agree with Kalni, try and stop the R talks and filling in the blanks for him.. he will resent any attempts on your part to tell him how to act/ how he feels/how to feel. He's only going to get it, by going through it himself.
Interestign what you say about your Mum.. my sister said to me that our Mum had taught us to not hold onto anything, bittereness or anger, to be forgiving and never ever to be vengeful of people. I guess thats why I am so forgiving of my ex, you made me think there.. so I applaud you for rejecting your Mums influence and managing to go your own way with that. You still seem pretty impatient though, for resolution and itchy to file.. can yuo just drop that thught altogether, if you DO still love him and want to reconcile one day??
Al xxx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
