The reason I do it is because I want so desperately for her to come back that I can't detach. By putting it in my head that she will not return, that I have to get on with my life as if she will never come back is helping in spades. everyone will handle these things differently, but hears something to consider. If you were out on a lake in a canoe and the canoe capsized and sank and people told you they would be back to help, would you stay there or swim for shore. Yes, maybe they will come to help you, but do you really want to play that game. Use your energy to "Swim" not tread water. I am like a few others hear, great advice, I outta follow it. but again, Live and love like they will be back tomorrow. It is a very strong analogy, but for us here, it works, sink or swim. You are a person and you deserve to have a life, if they have one, even if its with OP, makes no difference, what defines us is how we get through this and the people we become.
