Heading down my own path

[mishka422]

(((BBJ)))

I had a post all composed to you and got a fatal error. Bummer! Trying to reform my thoughts to you but I love what everyone else has said.

You know you aren't ready to file. You will only live 'on hold' if you decide to do so. The time apart can be good for you both as long as you do NOT do anything to help Dan. I mean NOTHING. The only things you should do are for the children. When they are with Dan on his time then unless they are bleeding or something equally drastic you can not help him with anything. Transportation on Dan's time - his problem. Dr.'s appointment (non emergency) on Dan's time - his problem. Dan has Nathan on a karate night - Dan takes him regardless of his schedule. If Dan is not capable of negotiating a set schedule with you (which you and the kids need) then Dan doesn't get the amount of time he thinks he should have with them. It's time to be tough BBJ. I don't mean that you should be deliberately cruel and ugly, but that you must be firm. Firm and direct. This builds respect and will further build your confidence in your own self-sufficiency as well.

Now, on to a happier note - CONGRATS to Nathan on his orange belt! Great accomplishment! 6 years old is a tough age to expect him to sit up straight and behave with black belt discipline. It does sound like he went a little far, but the excitement got to him. He'll do better next graduation.

You're doing a fabulous job BBJ! Don't EVER let Dan pull that crap on you again saying he's going to quit his job and stay home. Call his bluff. Tell him to go ahead and do it. See what he says. Blowhard!