And on the positive reinforcement side, both H and I have plans to spend some good fun time with S17, like going to movies and dinners and such.
This is a VERY good thing. It's usually for these reasons that our children find themselves in bad situations. Not that it is really our fault, but it's so easy for us parents to only expect good from our children and not reinforce it, and only respond to the negative things they do, which end up causing us to only respond to them when they are doing wrong.
so I'm so glad that you have chosen to make this an important part of getting things "right".
This is something I need to work on daily!
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."