So, we DO have an orange belt. That night was bittersweet (fri). Because Nathan DID earn his belt but he was squirrely the entire time when he wasn't the one being tested . He was not 'sitting like a black belt', he talked to the boy next to him, rocked back and forth in his indian-style position until he fell forward on his face. AND Master Sanders, owner of the studio, had to stop WHILE giving out orange belts to tell Nathan to stop flicking his white belt (folded up in his hand after he got orange belt) at another child.
H was furious about it and basically said that if the entire time I was home with the kids (not working), this was the result, maybe I should not have stayed home. Maybe he would have to quit his job to parent our children.
We talked about it later and he rephrased what he meant but I was still so upset. He actually told me to shut the f up during the ceremony b/c I was trying to defend myself from something he said to me under his breath....
NO we did not tell the kids yet. Dan left Sunday morning for Calgary/Boise and he doesn't get back until Thursday night. He didn't want to tell them Saturday and then just take off four days. So we are telling them this coming Saturday, once Dan is back in town. That way we have two days to start dealing with the fallout before Nathan is back in school.
I am taking Friday as a personal day (I keep saying that, never have taken a personal day but this time I actually submitted the request ). I am going to spend the day dividing up the children's clothing, toys, books,etc. I got in a big fight with my mom about this over the weekend. She told me all I do is kiss Dan's a$$ and make everything easier on him. She asked me why I was packing up anything, I should make him do it. I kept trying to explain to her that I was NOT doing it for Dan, I was doing it for the kids. Because I wanted to make sure they were taken care of.
If Dan forgets to mail the bill for the tractor or truck and it gets taken away from him, I don't care. Not my problem. If he doesn't do his laundry and wakes up with nothing to wear, that is his mess. But I am NOT going to take the chance that the kids won't have what they need. And I know Dan well enough to know that he would just go to the store and buy ALL NEW clothes, toys, etc for the kids rather than take the time to pack them up from our place. And I don't want to spend that kind of money while it is still OUR money...
So anyway I am going to get the stuff all divvied up on Friday and take his share of the kids' stuff to the storage shed Friday afternoon. I will get out the few boxes in there that are still 'my stuff' so the whole storage unit will be his stuff. I did go buy my D a Princess toddler bed, bedding set, and blanket to have at H's house. I told H I wanted to sort our things for the kids if he didn't mind and he said no he didn't mind and he thanked me.
So maybe I am simplifying it for him. But I see it as keeping my kids from living out of a suitcase and sleeping bag...
but he was squirrely the entire time when he wasn't the one being tested 
. He was not 'sitting like a black belt', he talked to the boy next to him, rocked back and forth in his indian-style position until he fell forward on his face. AND Master Sanders, owner of the studio, had to stop WHILE giving out orange belts to tell Nathan to stop flicking his white belt (folded up in his hand after he got orange belt) at another child. 
). I am going to spend the day dividing up the children's clothing, toys, books,etc. I got in a big fight with my mom about this over the weekend. She told me all I do is kiss Dan's a$$ and make everything easier on him. She asked me why I was packing up anything, I should make him do it. I kept trying to explain to her that I was NOT doing it for Dan, I was doing it for the kids. Because I wanted to make sure they were taken care of. 
