Maybe I should be in piecing part 5?

[Hope4us]

I've been at this for this long, I don't think waiting another month to month and a half is going to matter much. I just won't dump something like this on her while she's so busy/involved in this situation at work. Just won't do it. It's not who I am. I know others might and I completely respect if they would, but I won't do it.

I understand what you're saying about calling her on the disrespectful stuff when it happens.

I just don't know if I can change who I am. I would NEVER not ask someone who was in my house, I don't care who they are, if they wanted a coffee, etc if I was going to stop and pick one up. Just can't do it.

And I have full confidence she'll sleep in the bed once it comes. She's made a couple comments recently about wondering how much longer it will be before it shows up. And when we're out of town, there is no hesitation in her sleeping in bed with me, so I would get the shock of my life if she didn't sleep in the new bed when it gets here. Especially since it was her idea to get the new bed in the first place. Kind of makes me think she wants to sleep in bed with me, but there's something that's keeping her from doing it. And I would bet my retirement that she and OM got cozy in our bed once or twice and now that freaks her out.

I'll throw something else out for everyone's fun. If I stop doing the little things for her and detach more than I have already, I can see my W thinking in her own mind, "see, I'm busting my butt trying to make this work and all I get is H4U withdrawing from me more. F him, I don't need him. This is the exact reason I had the A in the first place. He just doesn't understand me". Kind of along the lines WDID has been telling me she thinks is going on in W's head.

How do I reconcile that with what everyone is suggesting I do, which is go basically dim on her? Now before everyone gets in a tizzy and thinks I'm wimping out again, I'm not. Just a legitimate thought that goes through my mind after reading a number of the WAW threads.