I completely understand why you are so angry. He is shifting all of the blame onto you. That is just not acceptable. However you have to realize that if you sent that email (I know you said you aren't going to send it!) or something like that he will read your 'anger' even more.
Of course if you are done with him that doesn't matter, but if you are not, the anger in that will just push him further away.
I feel for you, this is an awful situation. I didn't see anything about what HE was doing or planned to do to change things between you...
Did something happen after he bought the coat and kissed you? I maybe missed something, I thought he was making some small small progress...
