It must be hard, I don't need to contact W about anything, boys are grown up, 1 lives with me and the other on his own (but close to W so he can look after her)She lives 4 miles away and we work in different directions.
From my experience,now on day 8, i have found it easier to not think as time has passed. I too used to obsess about what W may be doing, now there is a small and I mean small part of me that just wonders. It goes away quickly though.
Have you tried saying STOP out loud to yourself when you get to thinking about him. If not try it. Maybe put an elastic band around your wrist and 'snapping' it when you start to think.
These 2 methods give you a mental (and physical) shock. Then you think about something else totally for a minute or 2, try just reading something, anything. You know that you CANNOT read any words without saying them to yourself in your head? It's true, so by reading a road sign, a book, a magazine, a truck, you force your mind to stop what it was doing and 'talk' to you. That worked for me.
