Why does it concern you in the slightest WHAT your W thinks when you are out. The purpose of this 'club' is to encourage you to keep away from contact like that. In my opinion, it only serves to keep your W at the front of your mind.
Trick is, to go out, have a great time, tell no-one apart frm people on 'your' side and let it get back to W by other means. Much more effective. Not only have you kept her 'dark' but you haven't said ANYTHING to her. That will make her curious, not only where you went, but why you left her 'out of the loop'.
You really don't need to consider what they think about where you are, just go and GAL for YOU!
OK. that's my 2c.
I'm glad you have still got plenty of contact with D3. I understand that she will nod at the phone, bless her.
