Maybe I should be in piecing part 5?

[Hope4us]

Thank you Sandi.

I see what you're saying about yourself in my W. It's like I've always been there for her, even after she had her A, so it's just another reason she can take me for granted. Heck, she must feel pretty special, has an A, treats me like chit, and I just keep treating her with the love and respect (or doormat) that I've always done. Why would she want to change anything?

I've been thinking about how long I've put up with this, and I know I've said many, many times (like Pup pointed out) that if things didn't change, I would change them, but then never did. I guess what I've figured out for myself is that until you're totally prepared for your marriage to end, you can't do what you need to do. I'm ready now. I don't think I was before. But now I am.

So I guess I don't have anything to lose. Like I said though, I'm not going to dump this on her right in the middle of what she has going on at work. I'll wait until it's over. Our bed should be coming in the next week or so which will give me a little more time to see if she is making progress and I'm just impatient or if it's going to continue like this.

Thanks for posting.