Episode IV: A New Hope (?)

[dday101798]

Thanks 25 for your insights.

We've been married 10 years, boys are 10 & 11.

Unfortunatly, things took a hard turn for the worse, and LD, you NEED to pay attention to this.

Friday night (1/9) came and went with no call, no nothing and my call was rejected. Same held true for one last attempt on Sunday (1/11). Thus, I figured she'd made her descision and it's time to just get packing and carry on, so I stayed home Monday to do so. With everything being moved around I lost track of my phone and W tried calling.

Since she couldn't get a hold of me directly, she called "house-mates" phone and he came down with a weird look, and said "here, I don't want any prt of this". As soon as I spoke, W was screaming irrately that I had purposly switched health insurance coverage on her and would not let me get a word in edgewise that my employer is the one that made the change. She continues to scream that I DID IT, and now S11 can't see a Dr. and "he's dying", I'm like WTF are you talking about? She claims that his "throat was swollen shut" and he needs to go to the ER, so I continually say 'fine, I'll take him' and she says "no, your gonna give me the [instert explitive of your own liking] NOW! And I say no, I'll take him, unitll we can sit down and talk about some of these medical bills I'm having to pay FOR YOU so that my credit doesn't get hurt, I refuse to give you a card, if the kids have to go, I will take them, if you're in a emergency situation for yourself, I will come and take care of it, you will not have possesion of one of my cards.

Next thing I know as I'm coming up the back stairs still arguing my point, W comes flying through the house and football tackles me down the stairs, continually ramming me into the corner screaming "I'm going to kill you!" as S11 is standing at the top of the stairs yelling "mommy stop!"

My "house-mate" finally get her off of me and I get to the kitchen to get my phone and call the police. The moment I open my phone, she tackles me again trying to get my wallet and still screaming "I'm going to kill you!" and continaully rams me into the cabinet area that's in a J shape, so Im' trapped with no where to go. After a few mintues of this going on and my "house-mate" trying to pull her off with the least amount of force (bear in mind he's a good size guy), my BIL finally assists him in getting her off of me.

As soon as I could get up, my only escap route was to jump over the counter and head back downstairs and try and call the police. Unfortunately, my phone lost in the struggle and must have been upstairs somewhere. So, I light myself a cigarette and just try to get my bearings when all the sudden, 3 officers come in, guns drawn and are screaming hands up. So, I comply and after getting patted down and slammed to the concrete floor they're screaming AT ME for attacking her with a knife and where's the knife?

Immediately, my "house-mate", BIL and friend who was helping me pack tesstified there was no knife adn SHE'S the one that assalted me. After a few minutes of getting the story straight, they removed her from the house and no charges were filed as at that point I just wanted her out of the house.

I never saw my phone againg for the rest of the night and yet it magically appeared on the counter the next morning. Of which she began a long 2 day process of harassing calls and messages, especially on Wednesday night when I had to take S10 to the ER since he came down with strep from S11.

So, having enough of being harrassed and taking the phone from S10 when she was screaming profanities about me to HER OWN 10 YEAR OLD SON, I had enough, went to the courhouse and had a restraining order put in for no contact what so ever and domestic battery charges were filed, man was that the weirdest feeling in the world being the only male victim in the court

So, at least for the next 20 days, I have full custody of the kids and she if finally barred from access to the house. If she gets officially charged at the hearing, it will be this way for 2 years or D, which ever comes first to sort out the boys.

She's dug herself a BIG f'n hole this time.

Gave FIL a check for the "rent", he's not too overly happy, says he want's cash by tomorrow, I said tuff. I am in a HUGE financial crisis now as I was off all last week with 4 days unpaid, the gas bill shot up and now I'm feeding the boys full time, what a mess. But, they are doing well. S10 seems happy he's not 'over there' being kept up all night from their blarring radio and filthy conditions of the house. S11 is upset obviously he can't see W but understands what she did DIRECTLY IN FRONT OF HIM was wrong. So we're just trying to be the best family we can be, minus one person.

She NEEDS help.