Happy Birthday because Birthdays MEAN a lot to me!!
Stop taking her places, buying her stuff and tell her what you need from her. Tell her that if she can't try, then you are tired of keeping this up. I don't want you to be a WAS, but I do see it happening. Time for the talk with the time line and consequences included. She can't just be around for the ride anymore.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory