Am I ready for piecing???

[garyjlost]

Restoring a marriage with a MLC/WAW is a long, difficult process. It sounds like you are already well aware of this and are working to restore what you can.

The key part here is to understand what problems YOU brought to the marriage. Were you doing anything that contributed to the W drifting away? This is crucial because you can work on yourself. You can makes changes so that the marriage can be more satisfying for both you and your W.

However, if the answer in restoring a marriage is solely in correcting the other spouse's behavior ... well, you don't have much control over that. So, from my point of view, you're at a crucial step in which you need to come to some understanding of the role you played in your wife going through a MLC (or becoming a WAW).

Are you responsible in any way? If so, that's what you work on changing so that your wife can see you as an attractive mate again.

However, I don't feel like I know enough about your situation to really give you good advice. You've posted lots of messages, though. Is your story out there somewhere? If so, please point me to it.