Maybe I should be in piecing part 5?

[Hope4us]

I was waiting for your reply WDID.

Do I really need to say something to her about not saying "happy birthday" to me? I mean, really? In the past I've never made a big deal out of my birthday. It's really just not a big deal to me. All I need is an acknowledgement of the day. I don't need gifts, I don't need a big production out of it. But just acknowledge it. And W would always get me a card and it would usually be one of the occasions where she'd express her feelings for me (except last year ).

And yes, W is not a morning person. Does that excuse common courtesy?

Again WDID, you're going to have to help me with how she doesn't know what I need. I've told her in letters 3 times since summer, the latest in late November. I've said to her on more than one occasion "all I need to hear is 'you want to try'. And she says "she can't say she wants to try". So when you hear that enough, you just shut down. I know you said "talk" to her, but I see her respond better to letters because there's no pressure in having to face me.

I will "talk" to her about my timeline and the reasons why/what I'm waiting to see. This transfer I'm seeking probably won't happen for a good number of months. When I talk to her about this I will be specific about it, but again, like I told Pup, I won't do it while she's so involved at work.

Yes, I'm stubborn. But I just don't see what else I can do besides "talk" to her like you suggest, when she's told me on a number of occasions she doesn't WANT to talk about it/us. I can only control me. So if she can't/won't even talk to me about what I need and can't/won't even tell me she wants to try, then what's the point?