It is great to get perspective about my situation from y'all. It is difficult at first to get a strong sense of what is going on and how to respond to my H and his desire for a D. Everyone here has helped me out so much. I greatly appreciate your words & support.
Me:28, first M H: 33, second M Married: 08/08 Bomb: 10/08 H filed D and deployed: 12/08 Served: 04/09 I deploy: 07/09 Hearing date: 08/09