I'm here........

[Startingover2]

I told my mom that I'd like to be there to see what happens. Not for support, but to hear exactly what the judge has to say. I don't think I'll get the entire story if I'm not there. BUT, with D4 sick, that's not going to happen.

I wonder perhaps if the transcript will be in the Public Record?

Puppy

No they generally are not. But you can call the DA and ask. That is what I did.

[SueS]

Thank you both for the suggestions. I'll see what he says and then go from there.

SueS

[LL44]

Just thinking about you. Hope you and your pretty D4 are doing ok!

[SueS]

lwb- HEY LADY! Gosh, I need to email you. I've missed being in touch with you and everyone else.

I was out of work most of last week with D4. She has strep throat. She's been treated for about 4 days now, so she's back at school today and I'm back at work. It was a rough couple of days/nights when she was sick. Neither one of us slept much.

Happy week.....my oldest niece turns 21 on Thursday. My sister and I are just 2 1/2 years apart. She had hers early....me, late. But I love it. My nieces (especially the oldest) are so wonderful with D4. She just adores them all.

I don't have a lot to comment about on H. His court date was Thursday. They've decided to take their chances and go to a jury trial. That happens on March 30th. The attorney felt that having the judge rule right then and there that it would not go in H's favor. I feel like they're just dragging out the inevitable. H said that he'd likely get a fine and probation if convicted. I asked what probation would entail, but he didn't know. Hopefully it would include some type of counseling & mandatory testing.

Well, I'll catch up again soon. BUSY, BUSY. It's a BIG catch up day.

SueS

[Startingover2]

I wish it would be more intensive counseling and testing. My exh just finished his 2nd DUI court issues and he got community service, fines, loss of license for a year and DUI classes. I was hoping that the classes would be more AA type therapy but I don't think they are. From what I hear its all people just doing their time for their DUI's.

[SueS]

Hi Starting

I wish it would be more intensive counseling and testing.

Yeah, I guess I'd have to try to find out what MN does for probation. My parents live in SD. My mom said that they have an employee that has to be tested every day. The counselor here gave me the impression that if her recommendation sticks, that his having to abstain would be mandatory. Now, I guess I'd have to call her to find out how that works.

OKAY!! One bit of good news I have to share today. Despite my own personal M problems, I got very special news today. My oldest niece (turns 21 on Thursday), became engaged. She is with a wonderful guy and I am very happy for her. She's a very driven, motivated, beautiful, smart.... woman. She was crying when she called and was so excited. She already said that she wants D4 as her flower girl! Cute. D4 will be thrilled, as they are 2 peas in a pod....very much alike. I told my niece at one time that with her in D4's corner, she's a very lucky little girl.

Back to work!!

SueS

[Yoyowife]

Sues,
That's wonderful news about your neice. Your DD will be a precious flowergirl!

Hugs, Yoyo

[Startingover2]

That is great news!

I hope that is what your H gets. Its sure what my exh needs. I am sure he just puts his time in these classes and is done. In fact, someone saw him buying a 12 pack of beer on the way home from the meeting the other night. Nothing is sinking in.

[Startingover2]

Checking for updates!

[SueS]

Starting-

Well, I did this LONG update to the bb on Friday before I left work. Something became all mangled in my system and nothing saved. I was so mad and frustrated that I shut everything down and went home!

H is still at home. Things have been okay with us. Of course not perfect and not much has changed, but for right now, I'm okay.

I have done a few things for myself lately. I have an appointment this Sat. for a cut/color. I can't wait. The color has waited too long and my hair really needs to be cut. It's a treat from my mom. Not something I couldn't do on my own, but she asked if she could treat me to it. Of course I said yes. I sold a few items that I no longer needed and with that money did some shopping for D4 and I. I also......wait for this.....joined a health club. I'll be starting that this week. I'm anxious to get started and to take off some of this weight that I've put on the past 3-4 months and just feel better about me. H gave me some grief about it....saying that it didn't sound like a great deal. I ended up negotiating a much better rate. I struck right back at H telling him that if he felt it wasn't a great deal, then he should have gotten me in at his club. I've always felt like H wants me to be this certain type of person, but whenever I try to be that....or better myself, H comes up with a way to make me feel like I shouldn't do this or that. Now, I know what I just said....when I try to be what H wants.....didn't sound right. I've come to realize that I need to be happy for me and not for H. I know that. Hence, not really giving a 2nd thought to what H thinks about the club I joined, in addition to a few other issues lately.

My parents are coming in this weekend to visit. My mom bought me a book and I can't wait to read it. It was recommended to my niece that is having a lot of health issues. It's called "You Gotta Keep Dancin". She said that it's a great book about having joy in your life and realizing that you have to stop living your life saying things like....if I'd only get that raise I'd be happy. I'm anxious to get it.

I've been in touch with one of our DB friends and she put me in touch with an Al-Anon on-line group. I haven't visited it as much as I should, but I'll get going.

Not a great deal else going on. I felt great on Friday, but I'm feeling a bit low today for some reason. Just not feeling the best. I haven't slept well lately and I've been having more headaches. Not fun.

Well, I really need to get back to work. I'll be on soon again.

SueS