Ok I am tired and do not feel much like typing so here is an e-mail I sent out...


So are you all ready for this?

Son and I went to the movies and hung around town for awhile then came home.
After a short time son went down the street of his buddy’s house. I am so glad I
Waited and used the 24 hour rule. I was so pissed last night.
Anyway I went onto wife’s "office” and asked her point blank. "Did you go
Through my night stand?" she said "NO I did not go through your nightstand, I
Have no reason to. The only thing I go into is your drawers when I put you’re
Washing away. I asked “are you being honest with me?" she said "yes". (something was missing for those of you that don't know)
So I let it go. I half believe her but it does not really mater anymore. But I am going to tear it apart tonight..
So the next thing I asked her was " Why are you still sleeping is son's room?
She said she has already talked to him about it and needs to straighten things
up in her office and get a pad for the bed in there.
So then I told her that MY room is MY space. She said she knows. I asked her
When she thinks she can get her stuff out. She said she does not want to move
The things in the closet; there is no place to put it. AND she does not want to
Move her dresser. I told her she can leave the stuff in the closet I do not need
That but I want you to move your dresser when you have things straighten out in
Her office. She said she prefers to use the shower in my room. (It is a nice
Shower, we remolded a few years back. I did not answer..(I am choosing my
Battles right now)
I then asked her one more time "Is this you want?" I do not want to get divorced
But I want to be married, you don't want to be married" she said " I am sorry
But I have no intimate feelings for you I have not had feelings for you the last the last 10
Years" I told her I respect her feelings (or lack of them) I can not make her do
Anything. I do not want to make her do anything. I asked if she wanted to try
Some MC. She said it would make no difference she has no feelings for me. I told
Her OK. But if she wants to try something the ball is now in her court. I told
Her I am going to tell our D's this week. (They are mine from a previous
Marriage but she did adopt them) I told her I am not going to tell my mom yet. I
Told her that next weekend when she is camping with her best friend and her
Cousin it will be a good time to tell them. She said ok. She also told me to let
Her know when I tell my mom so she can tell her mom.
We both agreed that nothing can really happen until she gets a job. I told her I
Know and then when she does get a job we need to bring down the debt. I told her
I am not sure what we are going to do with the dog but we will decide when the
Time comes. (The dog was bought for son but it became my dog) she told me where ever she ends up
She wants to take the dog because that is son's dog. (Again assuming she is
Going to have son but like I said I want to choose my battles right now.)
But it was a real nice conversation. I did not get emotional. I did not get
Angry or hurt. Wife cried though most of it...
There was more said but I am lousy at repeating stuff. But you got the jest of
It..

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Years ago when I lost my leg I came to the reality that no matter how much I worried about it. No matter how angry or sad I got it was not going to grow back.
I had to learn to accept the things I can't change.
I slip now and then but this is one I will be dealing with now.
Strange but I am ok with it.

Dr LOve

And if I claim to be a wise man, well
It surely means that I don't know