CIW..PM is RIGHT..there is no way we should let our spouses off the hook, whether the most beautiful and wonderful OW/OM was standing right there in front of them..they should have walked away and worked on US..

PM, your spouse sounds like mine, I never really realized how BIG the issues were that my hub would occasionally mention, but not in years really, until he decided to drop the bomb, I think it was just more convenient to drop it because of the OW in the picture..LOL

CIW..PM is also right..don't take all of the blame yourself..YOU are a good person, you are here, wanting to work on the marriage and yourself..what kind of person does that in the midst of this?? A GOOD loving kind person does \:\)

Tawnya

Me:39
H:40
D18/S12
M20/T21
Bomb 10/11/08
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