Your h is actually living the Christmas Carol as we speak. It's all part of the healing process for him. He's been in crisis for a long time and now that he's starting to wake up, just like Rip Van Winkle, he will need to go back and revisit everything before finally emerging from that nap a whole, mature man.
He said he wrote to his father....did he say he mailed the letter? Let's hope is father will be receptive and reply back to him.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
