You can still count the days to your 'dark' total if your W called you and no R talk was done. Well done!
It's not always easy to ignore calls. I have only managed it twice!!.
With regards to her appearance. My W has started to look VERY tired. She works hard and isn't sleeping. I feel like I want to help, but know I cannot. Good to hear that YOU look good though, make sure you keep on looking good
The WASs only know how to screw with you if you let them Rob. That is what detaching is all about. Switching off emotionally. Keep them in your hearts, but don't let them affect you with their actions.