Detaching is NOT an easy thing to do. Moreso when your spouse can and frequently does, push your buttons. (JD can help with that one). It's also harder if you regularly see them.
I am in a different sitch. My W left and moved 4 miles away. I work 60 miles from her and we both travel different directions. The only contact we have is either by phone or text. I['m currently on day 8 of the 12 stretch and it's helped me tremendously. I have removed W from my day to day worries and thoughts. I can function on my own better.
I suppose that the thing I did that made it easiest for me was to make a concious decision to carry on as if she was NEVER coming back and that if she did, she would have to persuade me to try again, NOT the other way round.
Stick with the club and let us know how you get on.
