could you step over to miracl3s (sp?) thread and take a look? I was really trying to get thru to him. In fact, I was brutally honest and blunt with him. He didn't get it though. At all. Said the same thing over in his next post.
His posts actually go back to June '07, which surprised me. They all say the same thing over and over. W isn't happy, wants out of the M, sends out her red flares b/c her needs are not met, he "doesn't help out", he "lacks motivation/passion", etc. He asks us what to DO, But is himself "doing" nothing and he says he "wonders" himself if he really wants to...(which kind of makes me think that his W is on to something about the lack of motivation/passion...??) Oh, and He hasn't gotten around to reading the DB book(s), or "Five LLs", or any of the ones recommended or actions suggested, 20 months ago... But the titles of his threads are filled with despair and he's "in agony"(?) etc. Seems like cognitive dissonance; or maybe he's saying what he thinks he should say, but doesn't really do anything about.(?)
Anyhow, I've been pretty impatient this week and think maybe your eyes will see it differently, [i][b[/i]]OR[/b] maybe I'm a genius (!) and you'll validate my perceptions and echo them, and he can hear it from two people!
Oh, h was rear ended by a drunk driver on Friday and his neck is hurting. Getting an MRI and work up as we speak, though no impingement symptoms (radiating down the arms, etc. ) so far. More like pulled muscle we hope. Thing is, h UNDERSTATES pain in himself hugely. One time he said he had "kind of a bad headache" but guess what? He had meningitis. Few months ago, H had a "sore foot" and finally got it x-rayed...and it was fractured. So if he says his neck "really hurts" I worry. Yeah, I know. H is a doctor. Go figure.
Hoping YOUR neck and back are feeling better. Never underestimate the healing power of hot water (I love my hot tub and it does help the back pain--L-5/S-1 for me). If your pain is getting worse, do check out the spinal cord stimulators as well as some other devices that are using electrical means, radio frequecny, laser, and other methods to help.
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M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
